I suspect some will argue GRRM himself is clueless about consent and rape issues, but I never saw the book scene as rape, mostly because Cersei doesn’t react as an angry rape victim would. Quite different from her reaction to Robert raping her.
Yeah, I know that a lot of people automatically view some of his writing as problematic because he’s a guy writing about misogyny-related issues. I’d be lying if I said there wasn’t some sexism in ASOIAF at times, but for the most part I think he does a very good job with his female characters. He never portrays sexual assault as anything less than an act of utmost evil, and the women who have been raped all react as you would expect their characters to react - in Cersei’s case, she bottles up this massive fury that culminates in her arranging Robert’s murder (i.e. not just getting over it like it was nothing).
Unfortunately, the show’s MRA-like take on rape as No Big Deal that women Just Get Over isn’t new. Sansa’s almost-raped twice but doesn’t seem to care. Daisy disappears after Joff’s sexualized assault by proxy. Sigh.
I completely agree. There certainly is a lot of rape in the books, but it’s rarely brushed aside like it’s nothing. Even minor characters who are raped have very significant reactions to it, like the young woman Arya encounters at Harrenhal who is raped repeatedly by the Mountain’s men and ends up trying to kill one of them for it (only to be killed herself, of course, because this is Westeros, the land of unhappiness).
GOT, on the other hand, just seems to throw rape in for shock value. Sansa at the riot, Daisy and Ros, etc. It completely devalues it and acts as confirmation for the people who think that rape isn’t a life-altering event.