Anonymous asked: Hope this isn't offensive, but it seems you now identify yourself as a feminist. But as I recall, you stated many times on your old blog that you did NOT consider yourself one. I also recall your argument that Ros's death was NOT an example of sexualized violence. Just wanted to know, what made you change your mind?
It’s not offensive at all! I was actually wondering if anyone would ask me this.
In the soul-searching time I spent off Tumblr, I started getting really into history - ancient history, recent history, just any history at all. And it made me a little angry to find all of these amazing women who I’d never learned about in school and whose names no one really knows, even though they had done just as much as men (ex: We all know who Spartacus was, but hardly anyone knows about Boudica, even though she and he did the same thing). The amount of slut-shaming of historical figures was also incredible - Cleopatra had quite a few economic and political accomplishments, but from what people say about her you’d think all she did was sleep with Caesar and Antony. I also started hanging out on reddit, which exposed me to more internet misogyny than I’ve ever seen before and made me realize how “real” sexism still is.
All of that led me to become a lot more invested in women’s rights and women’s empowerment. Eventually I decided that, while there are still radicals and flaws in the movement, feminism is ultimately a good thing, and surrendering it to the radicals isn’t the right option to take. I think I just needed some time away from the ultra-radical social justice folk (who seem a lot less prevalent now) to accept it. I had never interacted with people of that ilk before Tumblr, so the shock of it is what caused me to so readily say “I’m not a feminist,” even though I’d actually identified as one before I started blogging.
As for Ros: I still honestly don’t think this [image of her body post-mortem] is very sexual. She’s wearing her usual dress, and is posed in a way that we can see the head-chest-groin thing that Arya was talking about earlier in the episode. The show doesn’t seem to have gone out of its way to make her remotely sexy looking.
I do agree, however, that it was a sign of misogyny on the part of the writers - the old “Disposable Sex Worker" / "Disposable Woman" tropes are both in play here. I suppose you could make the argument that because she was a prostitute, her death was inherently sexual since she had gone to Joffrey with the intent of sex? But I would call the incident of her beating Daisy sexualized violence, whereas this was just plain sexist violence.
tl;dr: I was a feminist, then I joined Tumblr and stopped being a feminist, then I left Tumblr and started being one again. Now I’m back and have been reborn as a feminist phoenix.
If you have any other questions about it, don’t hesitate to ask! I don’t take offense easily.