So that scene in the finale between Cersei and Tywin showcased some great acting, even though all of Cersei’s lines were literally the exact opposite of her character in the book but okay whatever let’s just change her motivations and her entire personality and pretty much everything about her.
Though the time and place is wildly inappropriate and Cersei is fearful of discovery, she is as hungry for him as he is for her.
"She is as hungry for him as he is for her."
So I’m not saying that all the people going on about how Jaime was an unreliable narrator and how Cersei’s “weak” rejection wasn’t actually “weak” and how she only gave consent to get it over with faster…
… because the author is saying it for me.
(Though he should have stopped when she first said “no.” That wasn’t cool. But yeah, Cersei’s consent was real is my main takeaway from this.)
To understand the psychology behind it, and why he goes as far as he does, was really difficult. To me it became, When does physical desire take over? It’s one of those things where he’s been holding it back for so long, and then out of anger he grabs her, and instinct takes over, and he lets loose. He says, I don’t care. He wants to not care. He has to connect to her, and he knows this is the most fucked up way for it to happen, but in that moment, he knows it’s all he can do. It’s an act of powerlessness.
“It took me awhile to wrap my head around it, because I think that, for some people, it’s just going to look like rape. The intention is that it’s not just that; it’s about two people who’ve had this connection for so many years, and much of it is physical, and much of it has had to be kept secret, and this is almost the last thing left now.”
RAPE IS ONLY AN ACT OF POWERLESSNESS FOR THE PERSON BEING RAPED, NOT FOR THE RAPIST WHO IS MAKING THE CHOICE TO RAPE SOMEONE.
There’s also a whole other conversation that we can have about how the women who demonstrate independent sexuality on this show - Ros, Talisa, Cersei - have all been punished in some way for it.
Ros was killed because Littlefinger saw her as just a disposable prostitute.
Talisa was stabbed in the belly to emphasize her pregnancy.
Now Cersei has been raped by her lover.
Also can we talk about how Cersei’s primary weapon is her sexuality, and how she values it above anything else (short of her children and title) in her life?
And how even when Robert was raping her throughout their marriage, she never explicitly thought of it as rape? She referred to it as an “assault,” but she deliberately never used the word rape because to admit to herself that she was being raped would be admitting to herself that her sexuality was being used without her consent. So she made herself act very haughty and above it all because that was how she could reclaim control over the situation - by thinking, “Whatever, I don’t even care what Robert does to me. Sure, it hurts, but I can handle it because it’s a necessary evil.”
To have Cersei raped in such a blatant fashion - especially by someone she sees as “her shadow, her other half” (AFFC) - completely obliterates that characterization of her. Because let’s be real: If Jaime had raped Cersei in the books, she would have straight up murdered him. Something tells me that’s not going to happen on the show, which means it’ll be something that she just moves past (and might not even be mentioned again, knowing GOT).
Basically, GOT has taken Cersei’s sexuality from her. She’s not being portrayed as the scheming seductress whose first move is to hit on any man who’s making her life difficult. That aspect of her has been almost entirely removed, and I honestly can’t imagine GOT!Cersei doing what ASOIAF!Cersei does in later books (particularly where the Kettleblacks are concerned).
And that makes me very upset.
Now that I’ve had a few minutes to digest that scene…
I’m actually really, really angry.
It’s not just because Jaime is my favorite character, but because Jaime is (per the books) one of the few men in this series who respects women.
Jaime, who wanted to protect Rhaella from Aerys.
Jaime, who actually grasps that rape is a terrible, terrible thing (“If I were a woman, I’d make them kill me,” he said to Brienne, a line that was included in the show).
Jaime, who actually left when Cersei asked him to leave (even though he “travelled a thousand leagues to get to [her] and lost the best part of [himself] along the way”).
Jaime, who is very intentionally not a rapist because he is supposed to be the archetypical knight in shining armor who believes in chivalry and old-fashioned romance and protecting highborn ladies.